Last night, I attended a women’s event at my church Living Hope, that was titled going from Ditzy to Ritzy. And so this is the 2nd part of the ‘Loving yourself’ series.
When she began she talked about the many masks that many of us put on. Sometimes it might just be one and sometimes its more than one. But regardless of how many we put on, they are still masks and they are not us.
Here are some of the masks we put on:
– Ditzy mask: where we dummify ourselves to seek attention from one thing especially, Men. Specifically she used the example that there’s a new guy at the office who is just absolutely handsome and his cubicle just happens to be right near the water cooler and so time after time we will walk and back forth to that cooler with our ditzy mask on. And yes sometimes its not men. Sometimes we have a friend or group of friends that are very smart and we put on this mask around them in fear they will talk about things we dont understand. So to be safe we just act ditzy. A lot of, if not all, men don’t find the ditzy mask attractive. They don’t find the ‘easy girl’ routine even remotely cute.
Men want a confident women. That is what makes you attractive, so please don’t go lowering your standards just to fit in, don’t go lowering your standards just so that one guy can finally notice you. Don’t go lowering your standard just for attention. There’s already someone who loves you more than anything in the whole wide universe and wants your attention. One who wants to let you know just how much he loves you. And his name is Jesus. The one man whom your standards should matter to. Yes we have our spouses and everything but even then. What he did for you and I on that cross is irreplaceable, it means SO much. He loves you just the way you are. When God looks at you and I he sees princesses, Queens even. I dont know about you but I would rather be a Queen in His eyes than an easy target in some guys eyes.
I pray that maybe if there is a mask out there that you are wearing maybe its the ditzy mask, that God will put his finger on it and reveal it to you.
– Religious mask: this mask is especially for all you christian ladies out there. This mask is the one we put in church that says that we have got it together and everything in our walk with God is amazing and that nothings is wrong. This mask is most often worn when we are going through tough times but instead of being real we put this facade on. It says in 2 Timothy 1:7
“For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.” And that means also being real which each other. We dont always have it all together and that’s okay. I dont expect you to and neither does God. And thats the great news.
– The Guru mask: these are the know-it alls. Now dont get me wrong there’s a difference between knowing a lot of things and being a know-it all, someone who is NEVER wrong. No matter what happens or what you say, that person is never wrong especially when they are wrong they will do everything in their power to prove you wrong. Because humbling themselves and saying you know what ‘I am sorry, I was wrong’ is a pride thing. We are not willing to be humbled and so we are prideful. Pride says im never wrong, a humble attitude says forgive me for I was wrong, thank you for correcting me. Like I said knowing a lot of things is different than acting like you know it all. There is nothing wrong with being wrong. There is something humbling about someone who is not afraid to be wrong because that means growth is taking place.
And so I challenge you to really look at yourself and see if sometimes or even all the time do you wear this mask?
The world has so many standards for us, for me, but thankfully there is only one that really truly matters and thats Gods standards. You are royalty!!! A co heir with Jesus. So lets remove all the masks and lets be who we are meant to be.